It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a mediocre compliment, must be in want of the V.
Okay, maybe not every single man; quite often they’re actually taken.
Let’s backtrack, people.
The year was 2015. Or rather, is 2015. I’m trying to get my chill on by playing a few rounds of Trivia Crack because I freaking love trivia. I go to bars specifically on trivia nights so I can dominate until any sports question comes up, at which point I fail faster than ARod at a urine test or something. I’m in the zone, answering trivia questions like I just can’t stop. Then, out of a nowhere, my opponent messages me. I wasn’t even aware you could message on the app.
Before I continue, let me just say, I try to be nice to everyone. You never know what horse shit someone is in the middle of dealing with and I’m not trying to make anybody feel worse about themselves. Unfortunately, being nice backfires once in a while and you end up with your friend’s brother drunkenly sending dick pics to your phone. Why. Just, why.
Anyway, I’m basically trashing this person at trivia. I’m just whopping their ass. So when they message me with “you’re pretty good at this game,” I think “fuck yeah I am” but I say something humble like “oh I just know a bunch of useless information.” It’s what my mother would have wanted. The two of us chat a little; I’m literally talking about the weather because I’m trying to stay in as neutral of a situation as possible. But then he slips in a compliment. And I roll my eyes so hard I’m surprised they didn’t slip right into my brain. I assume that he thought my silence meant that he had completely swept me off my feet because he continues messaging me with some really corny verbal garbage. At one point he said “I’m attracted to intelligent women and I know you’re intelligent based on your game stats.” My. Game. Stats. Just because I know Hermione Granger’s second favorite color doesn’t actually mean I’m intelligent. It means I have a problem.
Anyhow, here is where I go on my “I’m so flattered but I have a boyfriend blah blah blah” spiel. And you know what this fucker responds with? “I’m actually married. But I like to flirt. I won’t compliment you anymore. Emoji.”
EXCUSE ME.
As my sister always advises: “Close your legs to married men.” Can I get an amen. Except now I have to close my damn trivia legs. I just wanted to enjoy some trivia.
After that comment, I patiently explained that I do not flirt with married men under any circumstances. (Unless it’s Brian Williams of NBC Nightly News. But I’ve already discussed that with my boyfriend and he is my hall pass. That married man can get it, that’s all I’m saying.) And then the asshole, who hasn’t gotten one question right ALL GAME, magically gets EVERY question right and beats me. That cheating little slimeball. How dare he.
There are just no platonic zones left. I understand when I’m in a club or bar setting. Getting hit on or complimented there, while unwelcome, is unavoidable. That’s why I’ve decreased my visits to such places. But on an app? This isn’t Tinder. Get it together.
I’m not saying all women object to being hit on and I’m certainly not saying all men hit on women with wild abandon. What I am saying is it gets really old really quickly. If I’m completely honest, being complimented once in a while is nice. It’s like BAM I STILL GOT IT. But not when it happens in the grocery store, on the street, in a restaurant, while I’m walking to get the mail, or when I’m just trying to blow off steam playing trivia. Most of the time, I ignore it and continue with my life. But guess what, you can ignore a mosquito bite all you want but it’s still going to fucking itch.